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Matthew D. Heineman

November 13, 2020

Matthew D. Heineman, 63, of Clayton passed away Friday evening, November 13, 2020, at River Hospital, Alexandria Bay.

Matthew was born in New York City on November 12, 1957, son of Bernard and Ruth Kress Heineman. He was a graduate of the Dalton School, NYC and Williams College in Massachusetts, where he was a member of Phi Beta Kappa.

He was an independent film and video producer throughout the world and in NYC. He also was a volunteer policeman for over 20 years in NYC, attaining the highest rank of Captain, and assisted with the rescue and recovery effort during and after the 9/11 terrorist attack.

He is survived by his sister Deborah K. Heineman, NYC; brother Stephen A. Heineman and wife Kathy Lingg, Pacific Palisades, CA; one niece, Emily Knecht and five nephews, Josh, Ben, and Nick Scaglione and Tyler and Scott Heineman; and former wife Katie Phillips Heineman.

A celebration of his life and his love of the 1000 Islands will take place at a date and place to be announced in 2021.

Arrangements are entrusted to Cummings Funeral Service, Inc., Clayton and online condolences to Matthew's family may be posted at www.cummingsfuneral.com. In lieu of flowers, donations in his name may be made to the Thousand Islands Land Trust, 135 John St., Clayton, NY 13624.


#17 Martha Wardwell 2020-11-23 15:39
Oh Matt, we sat together in Art101 freshman year, friends instantly. Another brother.... I will miss just thinking you are out there. Best wishes to the family... you had great parents, and a great brother..
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#16 Kristina Mellowship 2020-11-20 08:28
Matt had such a kind soul. He blessed our store with his presence often and was very supportive of local artists. He had a unique way about him that just emitted caring, compassion and kindness. He truly enjoyed giving and helping in any way that he could. He was a rare gem that often touched the lives of others in a way that most of us have never seen. I will forever be grateful for his talks, his wisdom and his selflessness. He will truly be missed at BHA. I believe he brought out the best in all of us, and for that we Thank him. Rest in eternal peace my friend.
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#15 Bj Mosher 2020-11-18 17:19
Matt had an incredible knack of engaging with perfect strangers and tried to make them smile . We felt he wanted people to know someone in the World recognized their being Alive.
We had many soulful talks and gave him several rides back to his new digs at RiverEdge always stopping by the Grotto of Mother Mary on Walton St
I will always treasure our friendship and time together.
His spirit will be greatly missed
Matt Welcome to your new Journey!!!
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#14 John Paul Brabant 2020-11-18 15:47
Matt empathized with the underdog, championed the gifted and gave of his piece of the pie in life. Knowing Matt since I was a boy, he pulled me into situations that challenged my comfort zone and shook up my small town aspirations. And yet, there was a safe space in him I remember well. His readiness to share stories of the past were a kind of catharsis for me. My condolences to Deborah, Stephen and the rest of the family. Love you, Matt.
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#13 Colleen Lawlee 2020-11-17 15:02
Matt was a true soul and giver of life. He would always want to give to others either with his knowledge or presents.
Brent and I always enjoyed his visits to our store and would stop and chat with him on the street. We hope you are surrounded with flair and fun in the heavens above.
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#12 Carol Kostik 2020-11-17 11:08
Matt and I were friends in college and I am so sad at this news. I remember his intelligence, humor and good nature, and his deep New York City knowledge. It sounds like he found a true home in the 1000 Islands and I send my condolences to his family and to his community there.
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#11 Jane& Bob Heyman 2020-11-17 08:33
I meet matt for the first time this summer. He was very
kind and generous man he will be missed.
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#10 Bob Arnebeck 2020-11-16 21:47
When the coyotes howl, I'll hear you.
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#9 Eileen Faust 2020-11-16 20:14
Matt was a warm, generous soul who wanted nothing more than to put a smile on everyone else’s face. We will miss his kind and loving heart. Enjoy your well-deserved rest, Matt. Sincere condolences to his family.
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#8 Michael French 2020-11-16 20:13
Matt you will certainly be missed. Always a joy to see you and have conversation. You were always true to yourself and always did your best to help others with your generosity’s. Clayton won’t be the same without you my friend! Godspeed and prayers to you and your family. Heart of gold you had! Proud to be your friend
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