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Elizabeth S. 'Bette' Ingerson

December 27, 2018

Elizabeth S. IngersonElizabeth S. "Bette" Ingerson, 87, passed away at her home in Clayton on Thursday morning, December 27, 2018.

Calling hours will be held at Cummings Funeral Service, Inc., Clayton on Sunday, December 30, from 2 - 5 PM. The funeral mass will be celebrated at St. Mary's Church on Monday, December 31, at 11 AM with Rev. Arthur J. LaBaff, pastor, presiding. Burial will be at the convenience of the family in the spring in St. Mary's Cemetery.

Bette was born in Perch River, town of Pamelia on October 27, 1931, daughter of the late Kenneth and Marie Phillips Sanford. She was a graduate of LaFargeville High School and attended the Watertown School of Commerce.

On May 13, 1953 she married the love of her lifetime, Richard L. Ingerson in Rosiere. Together they enjoyed golfing, playing in leagues at the C-Way Golf Course, raising their children and spending time with great friends in the community. "Ours was something special," no greater love story was ever told, one for the ages – Richard passed on June 6, 1971.

Bette dedicated her life to her children and their families. She was a communicant of St. Mary’s Church where she also taught religious education; Bette also worked summers at the Thousand Islands Inn.

Bette’s legacy will live on in her two daughters and their husbands, Toni M. and Paul Ingenito, Springfield, VA and Tina M. and Thomas Schuth, Spencerport; six grandchildren and two great-granddaughters, Paul and Amanda Ingenito and their two daughters, Adrianna and Isla (who was born on the day of her great-grandmother's passing), Brandon and Aline Ingenito, Richia Ingenito, and Shane, Erik, and Cassandra Schuth; five siblings and their spouses, Donald and Sally Sanford, Alexandria Bay, Shirley and Charlie Melara, Watertown, Gwendolyn and Dennis Kirkby, LaFargeville, Thomas and Christine Sanford, Watertown, and Suzanne and Noel Longton, LaFargeville; three sisters-in-law, Beverly Sanford, Dexter, Martha Sanford, Chaumont, and Mary Lou and Christopher Muggleton, Clayton; and numerous nieces, nephews, and cousins. Her two brothers, Richard and Kenneth Sanford, died before her.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Bette's name may be made to the Lipson Cancer Institute, 1415 Portland Ave., Suite 245, Rochester, NY 14621. Online condolences to her family may be posted at www.cummingsfuneral.com.


#9 Kathleen lawler 2019-01-02 21:56
I was so sorry to hear of Bette’s passing. Please extend our family’s condolences to everyone in the Sanford family. Thinking of all of you at this time.
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#8 Gary Getman 2019-01-01 20:37
Toni, Tina, families and friends of Bette, my deepest sympathy,
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#7 Rosalind Morgia 2018-12-30 12:54
Shirley and family:
Sorry for the loss of your beautiful sister.
Prayers are with you.
John and Rosalind Morgia
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#6 Jim Rhinebeck 2018-12-30 09:11
Tina and Tony your mom was the best. So many great times with Bette and Dick and our big adventure opening the RIJA theatre inClayton. Great memories of our times together. Now they are back together. Prayers to all the family. Love Jim and Shary Rhinebeck. Charleston SC
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#5 Shannon Longton Fenn 2018-12-29 20:01
Sending love to Tina, Toni and all of the Sanford and Ingerson family. We were so lucky to meet Bette through our beautiful Aunt Sue. Glad to have shared a glass or two of wine on the front porch with all of the Sanford sisters during visits to New York. I am so sorry for your loss.
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#4 Laura Brown 2018-12-29 11:15
My deepest sympathy to the families of Betty Ingerson, and to my Dearest of life my long friend Toni, there are not enough paper to write how deeply I know you grieve, I am speechless, as you know your mother was the kindest women I’ve ever known, she even in a hurry would give me a 5 min lowdown on you and Tina! I want you to know I’m here for you always, your Mother is now walking Hand and Hand, with the love of her life! Oh but she will be watching over all of you, she is in the wind that blows and the flowers that bloom, I know she left loving you all! My deepest heart to my sole sympathy to you all
Laura Brown
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#3 Steve and Carol 2018-12-29 10:28
a glass of wine, a smile and ready to dance or just laugh with you, that's how we will remember her. Hugs to you all, love yas
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#2 Jayme Spearnock 2018-12-28 21:23
To the Entire Sanford Family,
I am so sorry to hear of Betty passing. She was a remarkable woman, and will always be in the hearts of everyone that knew her. She always had a smile.
Love and sympathy, Jayme and Bruce
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#1 Julie Nellis Fournie 2018-12-28 17:15
Sending our sincere condolences to the entire family. Betty was truly a beautiful person, inside and out. Thoughts and prayers from the Nellis family.
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