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Mary Bastian

September 29, 2018

Mary BastianMary Bastian, 80, passed away at her home in Clayton surrounded by her family on Saturday, September 29, 2018.

Calling hours will be held at Cummings Funeral Service, Inc., Clayton on Tuesday, October 2, from 4 – 7 PM. A prayer service will be at the funeral home on Wednesday, October 3, at 2:15 PM with the funeral mass directly following at St. Mary’s Church at 3:00 PM followed by burial in St. Mary’s Cemetery.

Mary was born on May 21, 1938 during the Great Depression. She was the daughter of Lyle and Teresa Whalen Hall who were dairy farmers in Antwerp, New York. When Mary was still young, the Government purchased their property for the expansion of Camp Drum which is now Fort Drum. The family then moved to Oxbow where they purchased another large dairy farm which was managed by the family.

Mary attended a one room school house for five years before graduating from Antwerp High. She graduated from Ithaca College in with a B.S.in Physical Education. Mary began her teaching career at Clayton Central School, now Guardino, which is where she met and worked with her future husband to be, Robert Bastian Sr. On August 18, 1962 the two wed at Holy Family Church in Watertown, NY. Mary was predeceased by Robert in March of 2004.

Shortly after marrying the couple started a family and with two young children they put their teaching careers on a back burner and moved to Morrisville, NY where they purchased three businesses which they ran for several years before purchasing a large 18-hole golf resort named Marble Island just outside of Burlington VT in Winooski. In 1971 the family returned to Clayton where she resided until her death. Mary spent what little free time she had in the summer months from teaching, volunteering for special needs children and giving to her community for 25 years with the Clayton Youth Commission where she served as a coach, secretary and most importantly a mentor!

Although she taught at BOCES, Lyme, and Cape Vincent schools, her career came full circle when she joined the staff at Thousand Islands High School where she eventually retired from in 1996. She coached for many years the girls’ varsity soccer, volleyball, basketball, and softball teams and has far too many championships and accolades to list, but even had an entire day named for her at the school affectionately dubbed, B Day!

Mary never stood on the sidelines and coached, she was on the field like her players and spent gym class with her students playing along and teaching them by example as well. When not coaching her own team she could be found inside or even outside a skating rink where she was a hockey mom to both of her children for 20 years.

Probably Mary’s biggest passion outside of her family was golfing. She was a charter member of the Clayton Ladies Golf League and served as secretary/treasure for fifty years where she begrudgingly handed over a filing cabinet full of stats only just recently. Amazingly, she had 5 holes in one.

Mary was a devoted communicant of St. Mary’s Church, member of the Knights of Columbus Auxiliary and past secretary. Mary was also an Auxiliary member of Colon Couch American Legion Post 821. Founder and Host of Western Night for approximately 20 years. Mary and her husband Bob took the Sr. Girl Scouts to the World’s Fair in 1964 in Flushing NY. Mary served as a Girl Scout leader but also was the cookie mother for many years as well. She enjoyed volunteering at the T. I. Museum and the Handweaving Museum and playing all kinds of card games, especially Bridge, mahjong and poker. She was a member of the NYSUT Union and NYS Retired Teacher's Assoc.

Mary is survived by her daughter, Donata E. Williams and husband, Lt. Col. Gary P., Spring Hill, FL; son, Robert D. Bastian, Jr., Clayton; three grandchildren Alexandra E. Buduson, Clayton, and Colleen T. Natali, Spring Hill, FL, Isabella E. Bastian, Manlius; two siblings, James E. Hall and wife, Jean, Watertown, Frederick E. Hall and wife, Elma, Antwerp; one sister in law, Belva Hall, Carthage. And several nieces, nephews, and cousins. Along with her husband and parents, she was predeceased by her sister, Terese Stevenson, brother, Lawrence W. Hall, one niece, two nephews and three great nephews.

The family will be hosting all friends and family at O’Brien’s Restaurant immediately following the graveside service on Wednesday.

Donations in Mary's name may be made to either Hospice of Jefferson County, 1398 Gotham St. or SPCA of Jefferson County, 25056 Water St., both in Watertown, NY 13601. Online condolences to her family may be posted at www.cummingsfuneral.com.


#18 June Cryer Masters 2019-12-07 13:23
Mary was always a role model to me. From high school athletics to college she encouraged me to be a physical education teacher. She was a friend of my family and I will miss her but lean on many happy memories of our times together. RIP my friend and mentor.
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#17 Ron Roch 2018-10-24 21:09
Mary and I attended Ithaca College together for 4 years. She was a special friend and we attended many college functions together. She and my wife Edie were sorority sisters living in the same dorm. After graduation we continued our friendship. I attended her wedding to Robert Bastian. I refereed her soccer games. Her son Robert took the coaching course I taught in BOCES. My wife Edie substituted for her in P,E, while she was pregnant.
My condolences for the family. I am saddened to hear the news from her sister in law Belva Hall.
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#16 Laura Reff 2018-10-11 06:38
Donata and Bobby, just wanted to let you know how much I’ll miss your mom. She was a wonderful person. From being the coach who gave you a chance to better yourself to being generous with her time to help at church events. I will miss her pleasant smile and hello every time I saw her. We are all lucky to have had Mary in our lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you both,
Laura Bogenschutz Reff
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#15 Sean Clyne 2018-10-04 11:19
Condolences to your family
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#14 Linda LaLonde 2018-10-04 10:25
I am deeply sorry for the loss of your Mom/Grandmother . As you know she was a special person. Remember to share the happy memories that you each have. My thoughts are with you.
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#13 James Rhinebeck 2018-10-03 19:07
Many great times with Mary and Bob in the old days in Clayton. Nothing but fond thoughts of Mary .Our condolences to our Bobby and Donatta . Mary was a special person.She AndI coached girls basketball together at Clayton high Jim and Shary Rhinebeck Charleston SC
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#12 Jim Fisher 2018-10-03 08:14
Donita and Bobby, so very sorry to read of your Mom’s passing. She was a terrific lady and we had a lot of fun times with Mary and your dad at hockey games over the years.

She will be very much missed by all who knew her.

RIP Mary, Jim Fisher
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#11 Cathy Dartnell 2018-10-02 23:07
Saddened by the passing of Mary, she will be sorely missed.
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#10 Tammy Hammond 2018-10-02 13:40
Our sincere condolences for your loss. Mrs. B was my favorite coach in soccer. She was an amazing, caring and giving woman, which you can be so proud of.

Dan & Tammy (Meeks) Hammond
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#9 Tish Purcell 2018-10-01 21:18
Sending my condolences to the Bastian family. Your mother was a sweet woman who was loved and respected by the entire community. She touched so many lives and will be greatly missed. Thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
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