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Jane M. Graham

March 30, 2018

Jane M. GrahamIt is with a great deal of sadness that we announce the passing of our dear mother, Jane M. Graham, 90, of 531 S. Massey Street, Watertown from her earthly life to her heavenly home to join our dear father, "Papa.” She left this world on Good Friday, March 30, 2018, at her home, surrounded by her loving family.

Jane was born December 18, 1927 in Cape Vincent, NY, the daughter of the late Aloysius M. and Elizabeth M. Docteur Reff. She graduated in 1944 from Cape Vincent Central School.

She was married to James F. Graham, son of the late John and Elizabeth O'Neill Graham, on May 21, 1949 at St. Vincent DePaul Church, Rosiere, NY with Rev. Walter P. Charbonneau officiating. Mr. Graham died on May 10, 1996.

Jane graduated in 1948 as a Registered Nurse from Mercy Hospital School of Nursing. While raising her nine children, she worked at Ryan's Nursing Home and Mercy Hospital until retiring in April 1990.

Mrs. Graham was a communicant of St. Patrick's Church and a member of their Altar and Rosary Society. She was also a Girl Scout Leader and a member of the American Legion Auxiliary, the Dexter & Brownville Senior Citizens Organization, the St. Patrick's Dart Baseball Team, and the Mercy Hospital Alumni Association.

Surviving are eight children, Michael J. and wife, Gail, Webster, Julie E. Goad and husband, Marshall, Belleair Bluffs, FL, Mark J. and wife, Judy, Standish, ME, Michele A. Graham-Randall and husband, Michael, Oswego, Joel F. and wife, Karen, Jamesville, James P. Graham and Lisa Worden, Watertown, Jill M. Dittler and husband, Eric, Cicero, and Jay E. and wife, Michelle, Watertown and her daughter-in-law Carol Graham, Camillus, NY. "Meme" is also survived by twenty-two grandchildren and eleven great grandchildren and numerous nieces and nephews, and cousins.

Jane was preceded in death by her son, John M. Graham, December 22, 2016, sister, Eulalia Burke, and brother, Noel Reff.

Calling hours will be held on Monday, April 2, from 4 - 7PM at Cummings Funeral Service, Inc., Watertown. A prayer service will be held on Tuesday, April 3, at the funeral home at 9:15AM followed by the funeral mass celebrated at St. Patrick's Church at 10AM. Burial will be at the convenience of the family in Glenwood Cemetery.

Jane enjoyed spending time with her husband, Jimmy, at their summer home on Sherwin Bay, Pillar Point. They spent numerous winters together in Florida as well as doing some traveling. Meme worked hard as a nurse and a mother of nine, never asking for much in return, and always finding time for a good laugh with her beloved husband, family, and friends. Most recently Meme enjoyed solving crossword puzzles, playing cards, using her iPad and watching game shows. The time she spent with her family, however, was the most important to her. She treasured the time she had with her family and they valued the time they had with her. She will be greatly missed by all her family and friends. We will especially miss her laugh.

Donations in her name may be made to St. Patrick's Church, 123 S. Massey St., Sisters of the Precious Blood, 400 Pratt St., or Hospice of Jefferson County, 1398 Gotham St., all in Watertown, NY 13601. Online condolences to her family may be posted at www.cummingsfuneral.com.


#19 Susan Mathis 2018-04-09 23:05
To all my sweet cousins, My love, prayers and deepest condolences to each of you. I will miss Aunt Jane but know she’s dancing an Irish jig with your dad. Hugs to all of you.
Susan Mathis
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#18 Kay Graham 2018-04-04 01:11
I will always remember the wonderful times Ed and I had with Jane and Jim. My thoughts and prayers to all the family.
All my love, Aunt Kay
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#17 Tom Swartz 2018-04-03 10:11
My sympathy to Jay and family. A well-lived life. Hoping your cherished times stay with you and overshadow the sadness of loss.
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#16 The 125%er, Gigi 2018-04-03 08:57
Hey Uncle Jay,

It is your niece, the 125%. Yes, I am giving that much and hoping you and your family are too at a time like this, My 130% condolence to you, your family and all who knew Meme. She was a fine lady, who gave at least 135% from what I read about her. I pray for The God Lord to surround you with the needed support and provide all of you with strength to get through this time in Jesus Infinity% Precious Name. Amen. I will give a little more than 125% this week as my show of support to you and your family. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. We will keep praying for Meme & all of you. Please take heart.
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#15 Dustin Eastman 2018-04-01 22:27
Sorry for your loss.
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#14 Brynne &Mike McLeish 2018-04-01 14:22
We are so very sorry for your loss of such a precious wife, mother, meme and friend. I will never forget how much Emily & Josh looked forward to her visit. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
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#13 Ruth and Brad 2018-03-31 17:18
Julie & Marshall,
Our deepest condolences on the loss of your mother/ mother-in-law. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Love, Ruth & Brad
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#12 Hilda Jones Kleven 2018-03-31 15:54
Dear Mike and family,
I was sad to learn of your mum's death. She was a great lady who was dedicated to her family and helping others. She was a blessing to each person she met, what a treasure! My thoughts and prayers are with you. Keep her memory alive.....a true gift to all.
Love to the Graham Family,
Hilda Jones Kleven
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#11 Bill & Ann Decillis 2018-03-31 15:23
Mike, Gail and family, Bill and I were so sad to hear about Mrs. Graham. Our thoughts & prayers are with you all.
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#10 Hilda Jones Kleven 2018-03-31 15:22
Mike and family,
I am sorry to learn of your mum's death. She was such a great lady who I always felt at home with. She was dedicated to your family and was so proud of all of you and your accomplishments . I feel blessed to have been part of her journey in life....she was a treasure.
Hilda Jones Kleven
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