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Bettie I. Dillenback Grant

January 8, 2017

Bettie I. Dillenback Grant, 97, formerly of Clayton passed away Monday evening, January 8, 2018, at Samaritan Summit Village.

A calling hour will be held at Cummings Funeral Service, Inc., Clayton on Monday, January 15, from 11:30AM - 12:30PM followed by the funeral service at 1PM with Rev. Jennifer Kenna, of Christ Episcopal Church, presiding. Burial in the spring will be in Clayton Cemetery.

Bettie was born in Watertown on June 20, 1920, daughter of Fred and Diane Todd Ierlan. She was a 1939 graduate of Jamestown High School. On December 20, 1941 she married Frederick G. Dillenback in the parsonage of Clayton Methodist Church. Mr. Dillenback died February 12, 1971. She then married Robert P. Grant on October 7, 1972 at Christ Episcopal Church, and he died October 28, 1978.

She began working for First National Bank, currently Key Bank, in 1952 as a receptionist and retired in 1972. She was a member of Christ Episcopal Church and its Altar Guild, Calumet Chapter of the Order of the Eastern Star, and Clayton Travelers Club. Bettie was a trustee and volunteer at Hawn Memorial Library. She enjoyed playing Bridge and traveling.

Bettie is survived by her son, Frederick G. "Ted" Dillenback and his wife, Beth A. (Roden) Dillenback, Cortland; four grandchildren, Karen (William) Diescher, Laura (Brian) Kelley, and Brian and Gregory Dillenback; three great grandchildren, Jenna and Madison Diescher and Dillen Kelley; and several nieces, nephews, and cousins. Along with her two husbands, she was predeceased by her two brothers, Bruce and Frank Ierlan, and sister, Dorothy Heintzelman.

Donations in her name may be made to either Clayton Volunteer Fire Dept., 855 Graves St. or TIERS, P. O. Box 524, both in Clayton, NY 13624. Online condolences to Bettie's family may be posted at www.cummingsfuneral.com.


#16 Dianne Heintzelman F 2018-05-13 13:20
I am sending condolences from Shirley Heintzelman and myself Dianne Heintzelman Foti. We had not seen Aunt Betty in many years but remember her so well. Such a kind and loving person we lost contact after my Grandma Dodie and my father, Buzz Heintzelman died. Please know that we often talk of her fondly when reminiscing of the “good old days”. We are sorry for your loss.
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#15 Karen Kittle Goetz 2018-01-17 10:41
Ted, Beth and Family,
So sorry to hear of your mom's passing. She was always smiling, upbeat and a wonderful lady to all.
You were blessed to have her as long you did.
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#14 Eileen Grant 2018-01-16 00:40
I am very grateful to Bettie for having made my grandfather’s final year’s happy ones. She was a very kind and loving person, and I’m glad I had the opportunity to get to know her.
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#13 Tom Schofield 2018-01-14 11:11
What a sweet, caring and loving person Bettie was. I feel very honored to have known her and truly enjoyed the visits that we had. She knew everyone and touch their hearts in a profound way. There are even more smiles in heaven now.
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#12 Diiane Reff Morinigo 2018-01-13 17:35
Dear Ted and Family,

I just got back from CA and I read that Bettie had passed away. I saw her before going to CA and her comment was that she felt better than she ever had. I am glad I saw her before leaving. I loved Bettie and Betty. They were always so happy and with great smiles. I will miss her dearly.My Condolences to your family.
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#11 Jill Bach 2018-01-12 21:01
One of my favorites, Bettie was such a kind, loving, and wonderful lady. I enjoyed doing her hair every Friday for 22 years. I will always treasure our talks and am so happy to have known her. Rest In Peace Bettie, you lived with style and grace.
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#10 Cary Brick 2018-01-12 16:40
We always enjoyed her company and her wonderful smile. What a gracious lady . In our book, she will always be Clayton's Citizen of the Year!
Cary & Janet Brick
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#9 Bill Breitenbuecher 2018-01-11 08:19
My sympathy to Bettie's family. Her kind and gracious ways will always be remembered and treasured.
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#8 Dennis Honeywell 2018-01-11 07:20
What a wonderful lady. She is what our village stands for, kind, compassionate and always happy. I'm glad I knew her.
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#7 Jim Schnauber 2018-01-10 20:38
Ted, thinking about your mom.I always enjoyed working
For her through the years. She was a great lady.
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